So this post is very different from my usual articles but felt it was worth a post. For all my life I have lived with the concept of quality over quantity. This extended to having a few good friends rather than lots of more shallow relationships.
I have been recently let down by some of said friends and although I brushed it off as I do most things, secretly I was very let down.
One definition of friendship is mutual affection between people. Which made me think can you expect anything beyond this from a friend?
I think of the amazing people while travelling and have been reflecting on some personal characteristics. Do I get too emotionally attached to my friends? Am I too hard on people? In our busy mobile society are deep friendships worthwhile? Is my energy better spent on continually meeting new exciting people?
I think these questions beyond everything else I am learning will be the essential ones when rebuilding the life I want to live. Think of your own relationships, do they make you happy? do they add value? do you still want to be friends with this person?
Learning that people are really interesting
So a bit of an admission, over the last few years I have become a grumpy old man!!! I avoided people, would put my earphones in to avoid conversations, avoid eye contact etc. Why? I think as I disliked myself more and more I lashed out in my environment.
People are so interesting
However the last few days have been so amazing for falling back in love with people.
Why? because they are so interesting. Over the last couple of days I have learnt so much more about the people I know. My manager traveled the world for 6 months…would never have guessed. A good friend ran a kids camp abroad. A colleague hired a villa in a sleepy town for 5 months.
I suppose the point of today’s blog is ask your friends, colleagues or strangers questions you would have never done before because people are so diverse in their experiences. I would love to hear your stories in the comments.
I will leave you all with a quote about willful blindness that struck a cord
“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.”
― Søren Kierkegaard