So this post is very different from my usual articles but felt it was worth a post. For all my life I have lived with the concept of quality over quantity. This extended to having a few good friends rather than lots of more shallow relationships.
I have been recently let down by some of said friends and although I brushed it off as I do most things, secretly I was very let down.
One definition of friendship is mutual affection between people. Which made me think can you expect anything beyond this from a friend?
I think of the amazing people while travelling and have been reflecting on some personal characteristics. Do I get too emotionally attached to my friends? Am I too hard on people? In our busy mobile society are deep friendships worthwhile? Is my energy better spent on continually meeting new exciting people?
I think these questions beyond everything else I am learning will be the essential ones when rebuilding the life I want to live. Think of your own relationships, do they make you happy? do they add value? do you still want to be friends with this person?
I had an interesting twist this morning with 30 days till I leave the last of my life behind. The house I made an offer on last year fell through and I was asked to make another offer.A tempting offer? I could return to my comfortable life with a house in the wings. However quickly I realised it was no longer an option and I was committed to the decisions I have made.
The point of this little tale is its easy to have distractions that take our life’s down a path unplanned/unwanted and it can be incredibly hard to reforge the life we want. Why? Its scary, its change, its unpredictable etc.
So if anyone is reading please make the most of your life. I have wasted five years. Don’t make my mistakes and life your life.
” I don’t know whether you can look at your past and find, woven like the hidden symbols on a treasure map, the path that will point to your final destination.”
I took another step on my journey today and gave notice on my central London flat.
So in just under three months I will jobless and homeless… Have I gone mad? possibly. Am I having a young mid life crisis? more than likely. Am I happy? F*** yes. I will leave you all with a quote that I saw recently.
“You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”
― Toni Morrison, Song of Solomon